There tends to be something so central that porn addicts are always searching in this vice that puts them in a state of complete stubbornness and recklessness where they just won’t stop on their quest until acquiring it.
This mindset creates some type of irreversible determination within their being propelling them to get whatever they want with little or no regard to what is at stake down the line.
It simply means that they won’t change their mind until they ultimately get to see, experience, or act upon their hardheaded intent.
The door of their mind is locked up on such intent to the degree that there’s nothing that can unlock it by getting them to reconsider what they are so adamant of doing in the near future.
Generally speaking, this rebellious mindset which builds up an unchangeable determination in people’s minds to keep on seeking whatever they are getting out of their sinful lifestyles is the main cause as to why so many ignorantly choose the path of eternal damnation over salvation in Christ.
Postponing Repentance
The tendency of searching something that we are so eager to experience in watching porn literally sets us on a dangerous waiting mode in which we push aside our God-given responsibility to get right with Him now (2 Corinthians 6:2) through deep confession and repentance by creating plenty of time for ourselves to enjoy whatever we want.
There are times, it means delaying repentance for months, which then culminates into years because we have yet to get enough of what we’re searching.
This is mostly the case when waiting on a highly anticipated porn scene that will be released in the coming days.
The Principle Of Dissatisfaction Is At Work
Make no mistake, there’s also a big issue of dissatisfaction at the core of porn addiction, which creates a relentless desire time after time in you to keep on seeking more of it in order to be able to feel a certain desired way physically and mentally since the previous experiences weren’t enough.
They’ll never be enough.
I want to ask you all this following question.
Throughout your journey with this addiction, what do you usually do in the meantime in terms of enjoyment and satisfaction after setting a time to quit?
Most likely, you’ll strive to enjoy yourself as much as you can to make certain that no pleasure is left unenjoyed or untapped.
When coming across new scenes that you find to be enjoyable, you rewatch them as much as you can whenever the need comes up.
Why?
Because nothing gets to disturb the mind more than an exciting porn scene that you didn’t get to enjoy every bit of it that pops up into the mind later on after quitting, thus putting your quitting plan in peril since the desire to go back will be unbearable.
The aim is to make sure that you enjoy every bit of pleasure that this vice could possibly offer just to eliminate further need to go back.
Has it been the case for you?
Of course, not.
The need still comes back to haunt you later on no matter what.
This is what creates an unending vicious type of habit loop pattern. Meaning that the same circumstances, and deceptive tricks of this vice will still be at play.
Since the laws of God can be defined as the laws of life, joy, peace, security, and satisfaction; you get the exact opposite when you’re breaking them.
Something Will Always Be Missing
Since we can never get enough of this porn habit, we will always miss on something.
For some mysterious reason, there tends to be something that we had always missed from previous experiences relating to the visual and graphical component of a particular porn scene even if we felt satisfied at the very moment.
Interestingly, we had no idea of what we would be missing on at the moment we were viewing these scenes, but that madness often surfaces in our thinking later on.
The intent that comes to mind due to such problem is for us to go and acquire what we missed through another deliberate experience.
This plays really hard on our desires to further indulge in this vice. Dissatisfaction is also one of the core substances fueling relapse.
It is the very element feeding and shaping the desire and expectation of what we’ll get through another round of experience since the previous ones weren’t sufficient.
Dissatisfaction becomes what we do to reinforce old porn scenes in our thinking, thus strengthening this vice even further.
The very issue of dissatisfaction has caused our desires to become fluctuated and misguided to the degree that we don’t know exactly what we really want, and what we’re searching out of this habit.
How To Face Such Deceptive Reality
You’ll have to accept the fact that you’ll never get enough of that deceptive pleasure you are getting out of pornography in every way possible.
The momentary satisfaction gained will never catch up with the driving desire in the long run mainly because the intent is off limit from the very start.
It’s also directed toward something lying outside the will of God.
Therefore, you can never get enough of something God didn’t create you to enjoy.
For instance, you’ll never be able to achieve all you’ve set out to achieve in the flesh regardless of your determination to do so before you can make it out safe and sound.
You’ll never get a complete and permanent dosage of satisfaction which will eliminate the likelihood of you having to go back in order to finish something that was left incomplete.
Even if you end up reaching a point where you choose to quit as a result of not feeling the urge to continue to participate in this behavior for a little while in a given situation, but urges to seek more of it will come in the following days, weeks, and so on.
And even if you are trying to wait on a highly anticipated scene with such a fierce determination to watch it in the context that you’ll achieve something worthwhile, but your expectation will never be satisfied fully in the long haul.
You’ll most likely desire for another one to take place soon, particularly in the event that your expectation isn’t fully met.
The reality is that behind such anticipated experience, you’ll find an unending stretch of desires being hidden for other things that will be unfolded in your life that you may not even be aware of at the very moment you are directing your expectation toward such experience.
It simply means you’ll always find yourself in situations where the desire to watch more porn will continue to arise due to the insatiable nature of this vice.
The Bottom Line
Beloved, it’s not easy to let go of what we are getting out of such vice. But when we get to finally do so, we eventually find ourselves on a desperate journey where we come to miss it so bad to the extent we want to go back to recoup what we’ve lost.
If we were to summarize the main reasons you and I have found ourselves in countless crippling situations where we are unable to make quitting decisions to get right with God when necessary, it would come down to these three following elements.
- What we’re getting
- What we’re searching we haven’t found yet.
- What we are waiting on in light of something being expected in the coming days or weeks.
Lastly, there’s also a form of freedom of expression we have in this vice which gives the flexibility to freely act out on urges anytime we want in order to enjoy the pleasures we’re getting that we often don’t want to sacrifice.
These are recipes for delay that becomes serious impediments to repentance.
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